Dating happens love relationship
The first is care, demonstrating active concern for the recipient's life and growth.
"Tell you what: I'll define it, and you raise your hands if you agree. When she called her parents to tell them the good news, they were elated.
Obviously, there's a huge distance from here to the far more profound, personal love developed over the years, especially in marriage. Susan learned about this foundation of love after becoming engaged to David.
Reprinted with permission from "HEAD TO HEART" by Gila Manolson.
When you’re falling in love with someone, it’s hard to hold yourself back from taking the plunge. And why is it better to wait a while instead of blurting it right out when you feel like it? You may be madly infatuated by someone you’ve met on a date once, or you may think you’re in love after your first kiss. It’s just the first stage in several stages of that mushy thing called love.
At times, revealing your love for someone may be the best thing you could do, especially if they love you back already.
A woman I know once explained why she's been happily married for 25 years."A relationship has its ups and downs," she told me.
While most people believe love leads to giving, the truth (as Rabbi Eliyahu Dessler writes in his famous discourse on loving kindness) is exactly the opposite: Giving leads to love. When an enthusiastic handyman happily announces to his non- mechanically inclined wife, "Honey, wait till you see what I got you for your birthday ― a triple-decker toolbox! Neither is a father's forcing violin lessons on his son because he himself always dreamed of being a virtuoso.On another occasion I read something she'd written and offered feedback and praise. Because deep, intimate love emanates from knowledge and giving, it comes not overnight but over time ― which nearly always means after marriage.The intensity many couples feel before marrying is usually great affection boosted by commonality, chemistry, and anticipation. "Mom," she said hesitantly, "I really appreciate your feelings, but, in all honesty, how can you say you love someone you've never met? At the end of the conversation, her mother said, "Darling, I want you to know we love you, and we love David." Susan was a bit dubious.True giving, as Erich Fromm points out, is other-oriented, and requires four elements.