Six dating behaviors that scare single women away
Yet his height defines him, since it has prevented otherwise interested women from being interested in him over the course of his entire life. Okay, I’m kidding about the last part, but only because I’m so serious about the rest of this. And even though we had good initial results, the fact remains, empirically: women don’t want short men.
It amazed me that a woman could end up being so in love with a man that, initially, she wouldn't have seriously considered dating.
In fact, I was so surprised by this that I initially doubted the truth of the stories.
By "love" I mean deep romantic attraction, as opposed to lust or long-term attachment.
Lust is primary, physical and fleeting for both sexes, and long-term attachment takes years of shared experience to develop in either sex.
I agreed because I wanted to give it a chance, and I hadn't been on a date in a while.
I want to explain that one thing here, because the corresponding lesson for women is equally important. He wasn't the best looking guy in the world and he was a little quiet.So many of the women that write to me for advice have stories that go something like this... I never really considered him a potential boyfriend, but then he asked me out.
The information that a man needs to trigger romantic love is information that he can perceive within a few interactions with a woman.Now we are five months into the relationship and things have stagnated a little. Our phone calls are getting shorter, we see each other less frequently, and he's been answering my texts sporadically. Obviously this is just a paraphrase; the details of each story vary.In general the excitement he showed at the outset seems to have faded. I am completely in love with him and don't know if I can handle a break up. But the common thread among them, and the thing that I found so interesting, was that the woman's love grew gradually, over months, often starting as complete indifference.Before long I started getting attached and soon I found myself falling for him.We spent a lot of time together, and by three months I was in love.I didn’t want to mention it for the same reason that Tom didn’t want to mention it in his profile: because it’s irrelevant to anything that makes him a good accountant, husband, or father. He’s just been confronted with a very ugly reality that has shaken his confidence in people.