“A lot of the time when someone reads the word ‘independent’ they read ‘I don’t need a man,’ or ‘I don’t need a woman.’ I steer away clients from the word independent because it looks abrasive on paper. Stay active Gandhi says you must update your profile at least once a week by subbing in a new photo or changing up your bio to keep it fresh. These algorithms preference people that are active on their own profile and with other people. Give people something new to look at, don’t just wait like a honey pot,” she says.
Online dating sites are at their busiest between Dec. If online dating feels like a second job, it’s because there is serious work involved in maintaining your image as approachable, easy going and fun — and you have to have a lot of patience, dating coach Bela Gandhi tells Moneyish.
“People think that dating is like Amazon Prime, [but] you’re not going to find someone in two days,” she says. Even if you’ve got a banging body, leave something to the imagination and put your clothes on.” Gandhi says selfies turn people off because they can come across as narcissistic, and the use of clever angles can misrepresent what you really look like. Swap out your photos The photo of you at college graduation six years ago needs to come down.
By the time your date comes around, she’ll already have lost interest or have found someone more attentive.
If you really are going away, wait until you get back to ask her out.
A lot of you are self-conscious about the fact that you’re on a dating site.
“Spring for good photos that are high resolution and well lit,” says Gandhi. Pick only two dating platforms and stick with them Less is more when it comes to fishing for a match.With dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Okcupid it’s exhausting to monitor more than just two and nearly impossible to carry on authentic conversations. Use keywords in your profile Having positive and optimistic key words in a profile is attractive, says Gandhi — so try to incorporate words like “fun,” “sweet,” and “thoughtful.” Never include things you do not want in a partner because it will shed light on the negative, and avoid words that might be interpreted as overtly sexual like “cuddling,” says Gandhi.
A lot of women are looking for something serious and have no interest in participating in your immature wager with friends. He refused to accept it and continued to message me listing all the reasons why we’d be great together.” — Ashley, 30The problem..the solution: No matter how strongly you feel about your potential with a woman you meet online, accept the break-up gracefully. Sprucing up your dating profiles with better photos and shorter bios with upbeat key words and deleting bad selfies can help boost your chances of finding a prospective suitor online, experts say.And now is the peak time to meet that special someone. The dating site reports 50 million messages sent and 1 million dates occurring during this time.“You have to stay active and committed.” Match is predicting that Sunday, January 7 will be online dating’s busiest day of the year, particularly beginning at around 9 p.m. Delete selfies If you want to be taken seriously, it’s time to realize that low-res mirror pics, sports bra photos at the gym and selfies in cars are not cute. Gandhi suggests having four or five solid photos of yourself in different outfits and places that have been taken in the past six months.EST when the dating site expects to see a 42% spike in new singles coming to the platform to find a potential suitor. Avoid head shots and get a full body photo, otherwise a prospective suitor will think you’re hiding something.That means using too many dating sites can mean you’re less likely to meet someone you actually want to have a relationship with. You should also avoid words like “independent,” Gandhi says.